Siempre Feliz

Rigo's small pickup truck drove along the dirt road, the back bed loaded with people we picked up along the way from various villages who needed a ride.  I sat in the passenger's seat, listening to the radio and taking in the incredible beauty of the scenery around me.  

"Mi hermana, como estas?" (My sister, how are you?), Rigo asked.

"Muy bien, usted?"  (Well, you?), I replied.
"Ah, muy bien.  Feliz."  (Well.  Happy.), he replied.  Then he put his hand on his heart and said, "Siempre muy bien.  Siempre feliz, mi hermana."  (Always well, always happy, my sister.)

And that is how my first full day in Honduras started, a trip I took a year ago this week that completely changed my life.  I went to do some work for a non-profit I support, Project Eden & Adelante, which focuses on education and nutrition for families in the San Francisco de La Paz region of Honduras.  What I did not realize was just how much this six day journey would permeate my heart and my soul.



Manuel, Mario, Osman & Rigo

Padre Daniel

Project Eden & Adelante was founded 10 years ago by my former priest and dear friend, Fr. Dan St. Laurent (Padre Daniel).  Wanting to address the issues of chronic malnutrition and lack of education, he founded this organization to address these problems by planting community and school gardens, as well as establishing a tutoring program that involves the students and their families to ensure they stay in school.  There are four men on the ground in Honduras who make it happen daily - Mario, Rigo, Manuel and Osman.  In ten years time, Project Eden supports 20 community gardens that help over 100 families and 685 children have access to fresh fruits and vegetables and Adelante (which means 'Forward') has 144 students in the program. Living proof that one person with one good idea and the passion to execute on that one idea can make a difference in the world.


Rigo's House

I'm not going to lie, I was nervous about going to Honduras.  It is one of the poorest countries in the Western Hemisphere and has the highest murder rate in the world.  But, I just keep telling myself to go with an open heart, open eyes and an open mind...to see it all, feel it all and experience it all.  I was fortunate to be able to stay with Rigo, who works for Project Eden, and his family while I was there in the small village of Quiscamote.  And again, I'm not going to lie...I called my husband crying the first night I was there because there was a huge spider on the wall in my room and well, I hate spiders.  He talked me off the ledge and I remembered what I told myself...see, feel, experience. If they can live with these large arachnids, then so can I. 

And I'm glad that I did.

Rigo and Padre Daniel picked me up at the airport in Tegucigalpa, which is a three hour drive from Quiscamote.  Rigo greeted me with a big hug and I was instantly his 'hermana' (sister).  In my head, I kept thinking about the words in Matthew, "I was stranger, and you welcomed me."  And that is how it was with everyone I met that week.  I don't speak Spanish very well - I know some basics and that is it.  But, what I found was that I did not need to know the language to understand being welcomed so warmly by so many.  It's a feeling I've never experienced anywhere else in the world.

Mireya's Kitchen

The village of Quiscamote is very small and very rural.  It is alive with animals running around and children playing everywhere.  Rigo's house is as bright in color as it is in love.  His wife, Mireya, has the most infectious laugh and makes the world's best cup of coffee.  His daughter, Yessy, and his son Milton are smart and funny young teenagers and then there is little Alan Daniel, who would shout from the next room every morning and evening, "Good Morning Diana!" and "Good Night Diana!".  Mireya and I would cook dinner together every night, which always included homemade corn tortilla that was heated over the wood burning stove in the kitchen.  Two women who both love to cook don't need to speak the same language to laugh and have fun preparing a meal...and that's just what we did.  In the evenings, family and friends from the village would be in and out of Rigo's house and if there was food left from dinner and someone had not eaten, they would get fed.  I really love the great sense of community and family in Quiscamote and I never felt out of place - I felt like family.

UNH gang hard at work

Garden in Quiscamote

During the week, I met up with a group of 4 students and their group leader, Cheryl, from UNH and we went to work in different gardens around the area, whether it was at a school or a village.  I watched these 4 young adults over the week and could see them taking it all in and learning from their experience.  Milana, Julie, Kaitlin and Mikey selflessly gave up their spring break to work in Honduras, which says a lot about their character.  They made me wish I had done this 25 years ago.  We started each day in prayer and reflection, then shared a meal with each other.  A couple of the afternoons we were there, Padre Daniel arranged for us to head into two very small villages for mass.  The celebrations were lively with music and again, we were welcomed warmly by the villagers.  The first mass was particularly touching, as a 40-day old baby was being blessed and presented to God, which is a traditional practice.  It truly is a celebration and a gift because many babies don't make it due to poor healthcare and nutrition.    

Meeting Yuri (she's in white)

I was also able to meet two students in the Adelante program - one that I sponsor and one that the Confirmation class I once helped teach raised money to sponsor.  Yuri, who my class sponsored, happens to be Rigo & Mireya's niece and lives in the village.  We went to her house one evening and I was fortunate enough to have someone with me who could translate.  My translator, Lalo, is from New Hampshire and was staying in the village for a few months working.  He also happened to be a student of my sister's when she had a preschool many years ago...small world!  Meeting Yuri was an unforgettable moment for me.  She is one of 4 children being raised by an incredibly hardworking single mother who is also mute.  Yuri explained how grateful she was to the kids in my class for sponsoring her and kept telling me how much it meant to her.  We talked about her dreams and her hopes for the future.  She wants to be a teacher, but is not sure that she can bring in enough money for her family by doing that.  At one point, we both just burst into tears and hugged each other tight for a few minutes.  I assured her that if she is meant to be a teacher, she will...and I pray every day that she becomes one because she would be fantastic at it.  I think about her everyday - how hard she works to achieve good grades at school and the struggles her family deals with daily.  Through it all she remains selfless with so much love in her heart...her beautiful soul forever touched my own.

Me & Karla

My last day was spent doing some painting with Padre Daniel and the guys from Project Eden.  We blasted music, shared a meal and had many laughs that day.  I was also able to meet the student I sponsor, Karla.  She is a beautiful young woman with a very bright future ahead of her.  Padre Daniel was there to translate and we were able to talk to each other about our families and our interests.  I pray for her every day, as well...that she is able to continue her education, that she is safe and that she has a future filled with hope and love.  When I got back to Rigo's house later that afternoon, Yuri was there with her mother and two sister's.  I was able to spend some time with them and really did not want to say goodbye.  That night, I cooked the family some 'gringa food', which consisted of a spaghetti dinner and we threw in some corn tortillas on the side.  The UNH group had some food left over that I brought home and prepared.  We had a wonderful meal together as a family, full of laughter and songs that they taught me.  My heart was full and I felt warm with love. 

In the movie "I AM", the director talks about how the basis of nature is cooperation, not competition.  All week long, this is what I witnessed.  People helping each other, taking care of each other and truly being their brothers and sisters keeper.  We call it socialism, they call it survival.  I could not help but think about why so many in this country look at it this way.  Why is looking out for others and wanting to take care of our nations poor deemed some radical socialist attitude?  Why can we be so adverse to welcoming the stranger?  When did we become so cold?  The cooperation among the people in Honduras that I witnessed all week comes from a deeper place.  It comes from a deep faith...faith in each other and faith in God.  A faith that allows them to welcome the stranger so warmly, a faith that allows them to find joy in each day and a faith that allows them to love so effortlessly.  I never felt so close to God as I did that week...and I can't really put into words why.  I just did.  

The view from my room

I did not want to leave that Saturday, but knew I would be back.  I took in every minute of my last morning there.  Waking up in the village is like nothing I've ever experienced, as the sounds of nature just surround you - the cows mooing, the dogs barking, the pigs grunting, the roosters crowing, the bugs buzzing.  I sat in silence and listened while I savored my last cup of Mireya's coffee.  I helped make a few last tortilla's in the kitchen.  I waited for Alan Daniel to say "Good Morning Diana!".  It was so hard to say goodbye to all of them.

When I got on the plane in Tegucigalpa, I sat next to a man from New York who had been there for a week to do medical clinics in another town.  I told him about Project Eden & Adelante and what I was doing there.  About half way through the flight to Miami, he noticed I was crying.  He asked if everything was okay and I explained it was an emotional week.  He then asked me, "Are you crying because you feel bad for them?"  I replied, "No, I'm crying because I feel bad for us."  He just smiled and said, "You don't need to explain any further."  We seem to have lost our sense of community and our need to connect with one another face to face.  We seem to have lost our ability to find the beauty in each day.  We seem to have lost sight of what's important.  And I'm just as guilty as the next person.  It's not all about money and stuff...it's about people and experiences.  Spending time with the people we care about, welcoming new ones into our lives and creating memories with those people...that's what makes life worth living, that's where happiness can be found.  In my one short week in Honduras, my eyes were opened - my heart got filled with feelings I never felt before and my life got filled with new people that I consider mi familia (my family).

In his book 'Simplicity', Richard Rohr sums it up best:  "You have to run with your own feet to some place you haven't been before - to a new place.  You have to leave the world where you have everything under control.  You have to leave the world where everybody likes you.  You have to head into a world where you are poor and powerless.  And there you will be converted, despite yourself."

I often think about that morning in the truck with Rigo.  That very moment inspires me daily to take stock in my life, to not be a victim of my own circumstances, to be grateful for everything I have and to seek out happiness and joy in each day.  Then, I think about what the world would be like if everyone when asked how they are, answered by putting their hand over their heart and saying "Siempre muy bien.  Siempre feliz."

Mi Familia - Yessy, Milton, Rigo, Mireya and Alan Daniel

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For more information on Project Eden & Adelante:

http://www.projectedenhonduras.org/

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